Van crashes into thatched cottage

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Image caption No-one is thought to have been injured in the crash

A white van has crashed through the front door of a listed 16th Century thatched cottage.

It is thought the vehicle came off at a bend on Ampthill Road, in Maulden, Bedfordshire, on Tuesday before it crossed a grass verge, went through a hedge and embedded itself in the house.

A 34-year-old man from Maulden was arrested on suspicion of being unable to drive through drink or drugs.

No-one is thought to have been hurt in the crash.

Val Fossey, who lives in the cottage, said there was “a dreadful noise – like an earthquake” when the van struck.

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Image caption The van crashed through the front door and is said to have gone into the hall and kitchen

She was in the living room with her husband Steve when the van crashed into their home, which they have lived in for 14 years, at about 22:35 BST.

“This van came flying over a hedge and crashed into our hall and kitchen,” she said. “If I had left the room I don’t know what would have happened.

“We are not right on the bend and we are about 20 yards from the road,” she said. “He must have been going fast to go over the verge.

“There are cracks going up the wall into the bedroom.

“I don’t know when we will be allowed back in.”

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Image caption Val and Steve Fossey have lived in the 16th Century cottage for 14 years

Central Bedfordshire Council’s structural engineers have said the house is structurally safe.

A spokesman said an expert had checked the building, and the area that the van damaged had been shored up.

The authority said it was waiting for the insurers to take over the case and it was not clear when the family would be able to return home.

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Image caption A police cordon has been put in place around the property
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Image caption The house has been assessed and deemed to be structurally sound

Image caption A 34-year-old man has been arrested over the crash

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Popeyesgate: Restaurant gets caught selling Popeyes chicken as its own

Yelp is great for checking out what the community thinks of a certain restaurant. It’s also great for a healthy helping of drama.

Sweet Dixie Kitchen in Long Beach, California is at the center of a controversy after a disappointed customer revealed that its chicken sandwich was created using Popeyes chicken. The drama has since been called Popeyegate.

The whole thing went down when Yelper Tyler H from Los Angeles posted a 1-star review claiming he spotted employees bringing boxes of Popeyes chicken into the kitchen. 

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“I wanted to believe that this was just a snack for the workers, but alas it was not. I ordered the Chicken and Waffles to see whether or not they were serving Popeyes to their customers. I thought the chicken tasted suspiciously like Popeyes and was also rather stale,” Tyler wrote.

His server admitted the restaurant does in fact use Popeyes chicken on its $12.50 chicken sandwich. They then comped his meal, although Tyler did have other complaints, aside from the fast food chicken. 

Owner Kimberly Sanchez decided to respond to the allegations, and confirmed that the restaurant does in fact use Popeyes chicken.

“We PROUDLY SERVE Popeyes spicy tenders- the best fried chicken anywhere and from New Orleans,” she wrote.

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OK, Sanchez. While Popeyes does taste good, calling it the “best fried chicken anywhere” is absolutely offensive. 

Sanchez then went on to list a variety of other ingredients they outsource, which is completely and totally normal for a restaurant. However, outsourcing fast food fried chicken and reselling it on a sandwich for $12.50 is at the very least, misleading, considering it was not noted on the menu.

Sanchez claims the restaurant doesn’t have the ability to fry chicken on its premises, which is also completely fair. But, again, misleading that it wasn’t noted on the menu. 

It also doesn’t help that the restaurant hashtagged #scratch, #local, and #homemade on a picture of its fried chicken sandwich last month. 

To make matters worse, Sweet Dixie’s Facebook description claimed that they made everything in house.

“Everything is made here- right down to our bacon ham and siracha[sic]  Stay Local- Stay Happy- and always Eat Well,” the description read, according to a screengrab from FoodBeast.

The about section has since been updated, and even includes a jab at the chicken they import.

Tyler later called out the hypocrisy of the restaurant’s reasoning for using Popeyes with an update to his review:

In response to the response.  If you think Popeyes serves the best fried chicken then you really don’t know what you’re talking about.  

I challenge you to be honest with your customers…put it on your menu that you “proudly” serve Popeyes chicken.  You do this for coffee…why not for Popeyes chicken

After some stories called out the controversy,
Sanchez took to the company’s Facebook page to vent, and attempt to justify their use of outsourced foods with comparisons that didn’t exactly add up. 

Here’s the full text from the Facebook post below, just in case it goes offline. 

The owner of Sweet Dixie has a message to share with all our customers.You got a part of a story-from both a yelp review and from Brian Addison at the Long Beach Post/FoodBeast- who did not confirm this story with us and then posted half truths – the very thing he has accused us of doing. On our menu- roughly 95% is house made- starting with a potato lets say- which we cut, season and cook- and make potato salad. We make quiche- as in crack each egg and measure spices and cream, and I put it in a pie crust that was made elsewhere (isn’t made here) We use the best product I can buy to make the items on the menu- some of them again, come from other companies, vendors, establishments just like any other place you eat at. Because that’s how the chicken works too. We use a ready made chicken – and always have – even before we decided to go with a certain chain as opposed to a food distributor brand fried chicken.Your local coffee place in Long Beach maybe selling you (does sell actually) Rossmore pastry or Babettes pastry and breads you had that lunch sandwich on and if you ask where it comes from they tell you- but it isn’t on their menu. We have sold biscuits to places and those places used them as their ‘made from scratch’ biscuits. Integrity- despite this wave of ‘Popeyegate’, is what my food is about – no matter what you want to say. I outsource very few items. Outsourcing is when a restaurant brings in a fully cooked or ready made product which if you count all the frozen things Sysco provides to pop in an oven and serve, is alot. The things we say we make from scratch, we do and that is most of what we serve. We always have said where we get the things we don’t make here- who ever is claiming we didn’t isn’t being honest. And we have never claimed we make each and every item. We do use some ready to go products as ingredients for items on our menu.The yelp person was not only told where we source our chicken from, when he said he didn’t like it, we bought his meal. As for ‘plastering it on the menu’, we don’t, just like every other place you eat – that doesn’t mean it isn’t transparent- we don’t list the ready made Kielbasa or hot links or puff pastry or pie shells or baguette- I could go on – because we bring the items in- ready made- and then use them as ingredients in a dish – like the chicken – and make something that is then made here – an original dish we thought up- like the chicken slider with a head of cabbage we grated to make the wasabi cole slaw and the raw tomatoes we cooked down for 3 hours to make the tomato jam and flour that went into a mixer and became a biscuit and the chicken we bring in to put with all that.And we charge for the ingredients and labor that goes into that dish. We will continue our business the same way we have always done- honest that we make nearly all from scratch, saying what we do make from scratch, and when we can’t, we will use the second best thing available to us. And we will be glad to let you know which is which- just like we always have.

Since Popeyesgate broke, both negative and positive reviews have been posted to the restaurant’s Yelp page. One person comically pointed out that Sweet Dixie could have been using Popeyes for a long time without anybody noticing. 

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Read more: http://mashable.com/2017/10/17/sweet-dixie-kitchen-popeyes/

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Winnow raises further $7.4M for its smart kitchen tech that reduces commercial food waste

Winnow, the U.K. startup that has developed smart kitchen tech to help commercial kitchens reduce food waste, continues to be on a roll. It counts the likes of IKEA, Compass Group, and AccorHotels as customers, and estimates its 600-plus clients are saving 4,300 tonnes of food waste annually through the use of the Winnow system.

To support this growth, the company is disclosing it has raised $7.4 million in further funding, in a round co-led by Circularity Capital, and existing backers Mustard Seed, and D-Ax. It follows a $3.3 million Series A round in January 2016.

Launched in May 2013, Winnow is on a mission to offer the hospitality industry technology to help cut down on food waste by making commercial kitchens ‘smarter.’ It does this via the Winnow Waste Monitor, a set of smart scales and accompanying tablet app that lets kitchen staff easily log what food is thrown away. That data is then uploaded to the cloud, analysed by Winnow’s algorithm, and disseminated so that food waste can be reduced.

Or, as Winnow founder and CEO Marc Zornes likes to put it, what gets measured, gets managed, with the startup claiming that food waste costs kitchens between 5-20 percent of all food purchased.

That obviously has a huge environmental impact but also eats into the margins of restaurants and kitchens, which tend to be incredibly thin to begin with. Once its tech is installed, Winnows says that customers typically see food waste cut in half within 12 months, reducing food purchasing costs by 3-8 per cent.

In a TEDx talk in London in late 2015 (embedded below), Zornes, who previously worked on food and sustainability for McKinsey, talked up the many opportunities that tech provides to improve the food supply chain, arguing that for-profit companies can still be a force for good. “We’re part of a small but growing community of entrepreneurs that are trying to solve this issue, and I invite you to join us,” he told the audience.

Read more: https://techcrunch.com/2017/10/22/winnow-raises-further-7-4m/

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23 of the weirdest, funniest, creepiest, most surprising items found by librarians.

Ever wondered what goes on in a library’s dark corners, where you aren’t allowed to go?

Wonder no more, thanks to The Society of American Archivists’ Ask an Archivist Day.

On Oct. 4, university, corporate, and museum archivists around the world dug out the coolest, rarest, and weirdest items in their collections, photographed them, and put the results on Twitter.

They didn’t disappoint. Here’s just some of what they had in storage.

1. Small items. Very small items. Like a Bible so tiny that it has a magnifying glass with it for reading.

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2. And a barely-bigger-than-a-quarter book about birds, published during the deadliest year of the Civil War.

3. Amazing and rare photos. Like this one of unhappy men preparing a diver to check out the bottom of Loch Tay in 1890.

4. Or this one of three women in West Virginia, rocking the slickest hats of 1908.

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5. A folding chair used by Barack Obama.

6. Dirt from the grave of a well-known American writer.

7. A Roman-era coin, depicting either a man in a helmet or a curious understanding of human anatomy.

8. A photo of a sailor whose ship vanished in the Bermuda Triangle in 1918.

9. And one of of other World War I sailors giddily posing on top of two ginormous battleship guns.

10. A child’s sketch of a groundbreaking concept car — complete with a built-in kitchen and a 300 mph top speed.

11. A legal document drawn up in 14th century France.

12. A pioneering, ultra-glittery work of feminist art.

13. A photo of fashion designer Ann Lowe, the woman who designed Jackie Kennedy’s wedding dress.

14. A script for a rarely heard “Empire Strikes Back” radio play.

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15. Campus activist fliers from the 1970s.

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16. And punk zines from the 1980s.

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17. An image of rows and rows of classic radiator shells waiting to be installed at a Depression-era Pontiac plant.

18. A handwritten letter from Sigmund Freud.

19. Ancient technology.

20. Proof that Queen Elizabeth II is apparently a secret football fan.

21. A memo warning campus police about an upcoming Ozzy Osborne concert, citing the singer’s involvement with “abuse of animals” and “alleged satanic groups.”

22. Perhaps most importantly, a visual reminder of the tedious, painstaking work archivists do to preserve these items for random humans to gawk at on the Internet.

23. And why, if you want to see more, you’ll have to visit a library in person.

You can happily scroll through dozens more like this using the #AskAnArchivist hashtag.

No appointment necessary.

Read more: http://www.upworthy.com/23-of-the-weirdest-funniest-creepiest-most-surprising-items-found-by-librarians

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Amazon adds loads more branded Dash buttons in UK

Amazon has doubled the total selection of branded Dash buttons available to UK members of its Prime subscription service, to more than 100, just over a year after launching the push-button wi-fi gizmos, which let people reorder a specific product via its ecommerce marketplace just by pushing the button.

The first Dash buttons launched in the UK in August last year. Amazon now says Dash Button orders have delivered more than 160,000 cups of coffee and almost 300,000 rolls of toilet tissue paper in the market.

Although it’s not — in typical Amazon fashion — breaking out any hard metrics for the buttons, which cost £4.99 a piece (though users then get a £4.99 discount on their first Dash push order — so sticking these things all over your white goods comes with essentially zero additional cost, assuming you’re already locked into Amazon’s Prime membership program).

Reordering toilet roll is the most popular Dash push for UK users, according to the ecommerce giant. Followed by dishwasher tablets, cat litter, cat food, beer, mouthwash and baby wipes. So most definitely this gadget is one to file under ‘utility & convenience’ (not ‘shiny & sexy’).

Among the new brands willingly sticking themselves on Dash buttons are Bold, Cillit Bang, English Tea Shop, evian, Febreze, Flash, Gaviscon, Harringtons, Head & Shoulders, Pampers, Purina Gourmet, SMA, Tampax, Vet’s Best and Waterwipes.

The full list of new (and existing) UK Dash buttons can be found here.

For fast moving consumer goods brands, which inevitably have stacks of similarly priced rival products vying to catch consumers’ eyes on shop shelves, the chance to peel away and monopolize consumers’ attention in their own homes is clearly the equivalent of catnip.

Add in the fact Dash also reduces friction for repeat orders of their product and, well, there’s really no down side as far as the brands are concerned. Dash buttons for every kind of staple seems inevitable — at least until some kind of instant reordering gets integrated into products themselves.

Until then an unknown number of Brits are apparently comfortable pebble-dashing their homes with stick-on buttons. Or at least happy to put a Dash button for reordering bog roll somewhere near the toilet (hopefully in close proximity to soap and hot water).

Read more: https://techcrunch.com/2017/10/18/amazon-adds-loads-more-branded-dash-buttons-in-uk/

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Why Long Distance Relationships Are A Complete Waste Of Time

Dear Head Pro,

I met this guy about 4 years ago in college and we made out a few times then I faded it out slowly because I was on and off with my ex.  A few weeks later, he’s dating this girl I kind of know.  Fast forward 4 years and they broke up.  The thing is, I live in Chicago and he lives in LA.  I visit LA a lot for work and we have a lot of mutual friends who live there.

We met up (through him making the effort) a few months ago and spent basically the whole time I was there together (4 days).  I slept over every night, he was incredibly sweet and bought my friends all drinks the entire time, and he wanted to get dinner but I was busy each day because of work.  He kept saying how much he liked me, but when I left there was virtually no communication besides a random Snapchat here or there.  I went back for another work trip recently (a few months later) but was able to stay through the weekend this time.  We hung out again the whole time and he did take me to dinner once.  He continued to say how much he liked me and a few times was like “we should go to this place sometime” and make those sort of in the future plans.  He continued to want to know details about my life and seem super interested.

After I left all communication ceased again and he didn’t make any effort to even ask when I’d be back for work. Was the whole liking me thing mostly bullshit and he was just looking for a fun weekend if it was convenient?  I’m assuming yes but thought I’d get a second opinion so I can stop thinking about it for good.

Thanks!

So, fortunately (or unfortunately?) for you, this doesn’t sound to me like a smash-n-dash job—he’s putting in too much effort and seems to be having too good a time for it to be that. Frustratingly enough, I think instead you’re dealing with a guy who genuinely likes you, but who also understands the dead-end nature of LDRs. He’s enjoying life as it comes but not bothering to get too invested outside of that. Many people are saying that this man is very smart!

Is this good or bad? Depends on how you look at it. On the one hand, being liked is a nice thing! It’s like, at least twice as good as being unliked, not that I would know because literally no one has ever disliked me. It’s also maybe comforting, in a way, to know that you’re probably more to him than just a sausage wallet.

Then again, if you’re super into him and were only pretending to want him to be over it so that you could dismiss him and move on, sorry? Unrequited love is kind of shitty, but not any shittier than willfully living in Chicago, so I think you can handle it.

Head Pro,

I need help. (Obviously). My boyfriend and I have been dating over two years. We lived together for a few months early on in the relationship, which didn’t end well. I ended up cheating and wanted to break things off.. which I proceeded to do, and I moved out of our house. After a few months we got back together and he never wanted to give up on our relationship.. during the break I did hang out with other guys, and I think if he knew this it would crush him.. I can’t decide if I was just bored because he travels so much or if he really just isn’t the one for me OR maybe I have commitment issues. He talks about marriage a lot (as he is 5 years older). He is even willing to follow me if I plant roots somewhere else. I know the that popping the question is hiding around some corner that I will cross paths with very soon. HELP.

Sincerely,
Am I the boy in the relationship? HAHA

HAHA boys, we be cheatin’ amirite?!? There’s a lot to unpack in this (mercifully short) email, but I think the important thing is that your boyfriend is a giant choad and I’m not really surprised you cheated on him. I’m also not surprised that despite cheating on him, moving out, dumping him and fucking around for a few months, he still came crawling back to you. I just made homemade chicken stock, and the poor dead bird had more of a spine than your perpetually self-owning boyfriend. The fact that he’s 5 years older than you shouldn’t matter, but it definitely feels like it does. You must be able to do some crazy shit with your tongue and/or make a damn fine chicken stock.

Anyway, I guess you have to ask yourself if you went back to him 1) because you felt in your heart it was the right thing to do, 2) because all of a sudden being single feels like skydiving without a parachute or 3) because it was easier to just give in and get back with him. I have a feeling the answer is a lot closer to 2 or 3 than 1; in which case, strongly consider backing out now before you move back in together and/or he pops the question.

But if it’s 1, enjoy your nuptials, and I guess also enjoy getting caught fucking his best man in the hotel kitchen walk-in at your reception. Trust me, subsequent betrayals never hurt as badly as the first one. He’ll be fine, and may even apologize to you, somehow.

Hi Help!

I’ve been talking to this guy every day since we met about 3 months ago through a mutual friend.  The only problem is that he lives in New Jersey and I live in Boston.  We see each other as much as we can.  It has been hard with weddings/vacations we had planned before we met but he’ll even drive up during the week for the night when he can just to spend a few hours together.

I really like him and I think he likes me too (I have met his family and friends) the only problem is obviously the distance and the fact that we haven’t really talked about what we are doing.  I don’t think he’s seeing anyone else and I don’t want to.  Just not sure how to broach the subject / why he hasn’t.

Thanks!
Long Distance Disaster?

Well shit, this again. See the response to the first question: he’s not broaching the subject because there is no realistic way for a LDR to end in anything but pain. You’re not high schoolers trying to weather the long summer apart at different sleepaway camps, you’re adults with adult lives and there’s barely enough time to make a regular relationship work, let alone a LD one. He’d be crazy to say “hey, I know we rarely talk and see each other even less often, but I’d like to exclusively commit myself to being your boyfriend.” Christ, he could just join a seminary if that’s the route he wanted to take.

Unlike the first letter writer, there’s another, more pernicious motivation you have to consider: what if he’s just being nice to you to have any excuse to leave the state of New Jersey? Really makes you think…

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Child door finger injuries ‘can be lifelong’

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Children and toddlers whose fingers are crushed by closing doors can end up with lifelong problems, plastic surgeons are warning.

The British Association of Plastic and Reconstructive Surgeons (Bapras) said the injuries in some cases could lead to amputation and long-term pain.

They said parents should fit safety catches on all suitable doors at home.

About 30,000 children trap their fingers in doors each year and more than 1,500 of them need surgery.

The figures are from the Royal Society for the Prevention of Accidents.

It says more than two million children under 15 have accidents in and around the home every year and require emergency medical care.

According to Bapras, self-shutting fire safety doors, car doors and hinges are the top three causes of finger and hand injuries in children.

Hinge protectors

It recommends putting small C-shaped devices made of foam or rubber over doors to prevent them slamming – but these are not suitable for fire doors because they prevent the door from closing.

Hinge protectors can also be fitted on most doors.

Bapras spokeswoman Anna De Leo, a plastic surgeon at the Royal Free Hospital, London, said finger injuries were not a joke.

“The injuries are so serious that the patient would need to undergo a clinic appointment, an X-ray, day surgery, a follow-up nurse appointment and possibly physiotherapy.”

And she said the effects could be long-term.

“It’s easy to underestimate how important your hands are to doing everyday tasks.

“Injuries to fingers and hands mean tying your shoelaces, typing, holding a mobile phone or eating become a lot more challenging.

“And this is nothing compared to the impact of a finger amputation.”

Ms De Leo said people in that situation could also experience elbow pain, migraines and even depression.

“Fingertip injury alone can result in 20% loss of hand strength and can prevent people from pursuing their chosen career,” she added.


Accidents that happen in the home

  • Falls from height and burns and scalding result in the most severe injuries
  • Most accidents tend to happen in the kitchen and on the stairs
  • Children under four years old are most prone to accidents
  • Boys are more likely to hurt themselves than girls
  • Poisoning, choking, suffocating, glass-related incidents and strangulation are also common

Have you suffered problems after a finger injury when young? Are you the parent of a child who has injured their fingers? Let us know about your experiences. Email haveyoursay@bbc.co.uk with your stories.

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Here’s What To Remind Your Friend Who’s Always Running Back To Their Ex

I am the friend who always runs back to her ex. I was in an on-and-off relationship for five years, and it drove my girlfriends . No matter what they said to me, they just couldn’t stop me from getting back together from my wildly mean boyfriend. When you have your own friend getting back with her ex constantly, instead of putting her own needs and happiness first, it can be difficult to know your place and figure out how to give advice. You don’t want to tell your BFF what to do or put yourself in the middle of her relationship, but you also want what’s best for someone you care about. It’s hard to see your friend make the same mistake over and over again.

I have a friend who is constantly getting back together with her lame boyfriend, and it annoys the hell out of me. They are absolutely wrong together, and it seems like everyone but them can see this. I don’t think they have a single thing in common and they absolutely hate each other, but clearly, something draws them together. And that something is likely a combination of sex, codependence, and jealousy.

Each time they break up, they’ll run into one another drunkenly at a party months later, end up hooking up, and they immediately get back together. While I’d like to think they are over for good at the moment, I know in my heart this is not the case. And of course, it’s hard to know what to say to help her end this cycle.

So here are some things you can tell your friends who keep going back to their exes — things that I wish my friends had reminded me. (They probably did, and I just wasn’t listening.)

1. Remind Your Friend Of Their Self-Worth

Sometimes, we stay with people who are bad for us because we have low self-esteem. You don’t think you can do better, or perhaps you even think you deserve pain. You settle for crumbs in relationships and think that’s all you will ever get or all you’re entitled to.

Remind your friend of what they truly deserve in a relationship. One of my girlfriends keeps going back to her non-committal boyfriend — a guy who she constantly feels the need to stalk his social media accounts to see if he’s flirting with other women. I asked her, “Do you think a relationship exists where you don’t have to snoop, and a guy wants to fully commit to you? Because I think it does, and it’s worth waiting for.”

While we can’t tell our friends what to do, we can make suggestions that are in their best interests and hope that they take them to heart.

2. Remind Your Friend Of Their Confidence

In bad relationships, we tend to lose our confidence, and it makes us scared to move on and start dating again. That’s why we stay with our exes or keep getting back together with them.

When you’re coupled up for a while, you can start to lose sight of who you truly are. I’ve been in relationships where I’ve definitely let myself go physically and emotionally, and would rather just stay with my partner than be single and put the effort into feeling good again. But if you’re going to start dating someone new, it’s important that you’re a fully independent person, confident in your own identity, first.

So remind your friend of all the things that make them great, because maybe they’ve just lost their groove a little. Make them feel good outside and in. Not to get all on you, but this could be a great time for helping your friend with a makeover. Because when you feel your best, you make good decisions for yourself — like not getting back together with your ex who isn’t good for you.

3. Remind Your Friend Of The Benefits Of Being Single

We might stay in bad relationships because we are afraid of being single, when, in reality, being single is the greatest. In some fantastic turn of events, all three of my best girlfriends and I are single right now, and we are having the time of our lives. This weekend, we are going to the Grand Canyon for no reason! We were just in the group chat yesterday, and someone was like, “Should we drive to the Grand Canyon tomorrow?” and everyone was like, “Yeah, sure, why not?” And we all can because we don’t have significant others to check in with or to coordinate with.

So if your friend keeps going back to an ex over and over again, maybe remind them that the single life is frequently free of the bullsh*t they currently deal with.

4. Remind Your Friend You’re There For Them

No matter what, remind your friend that you won’t abandon them. When I kept getting back together with my ex (who I knew was a giant *sshole), I was incredibly embarrassed. I was worried my friends thought I was weak, annoying, or, at worst, were starting to hate me.

Sometimes, we make bad decisions until we learn an important life lesson. We can grow by making mistakes. So if your friend has to get a bad relationship out of her system until they can truly close the book, then let them. And remind them that you’ll be by their side while they do it.

You can’t control other people’s actions or tell them what to do. But you can help guide someone to find their own strength and confidence so that they’re able to make better decisions for themselves, like not getting back together with that sh*tty ex they keep running to.

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